BREAKING TRADITION....SHOULD WE?

We all know that it is tradition for men to get down on one knee and propose to the woman and ask her for her hand in marriage...it seems that in a time where we as a society are accepting homosexual relationships and marriages...a woman proposing to a man wouldn't be that far fetched right....WRONG...after watching an episode of LOVE AND HIP HOP... Jim Jone's girlfriend Chrissy, who has been with him for 6 years and lived with him for five of those years, did something very BRAVE... Chrissy stated that she was tired of waiting on him to propose to her and she decided to take matters into her own hands and SHE PROPOSED TO HIM.. shocker right ...well Chrissy received much feedback on this and it wasn't all POSITIVE .. many of the women that I have talked to as well as individuals who posted comments on blog sites pretty much thought she SHOULD NOT have proposed to him...but is what Chrissy did truly that BAD... she felt the only way to get results that she wanted was to be bold and ask her man to marry her...so my question to EVERYONE would be.... should the woman ever propose to the MAN or should some traditions be kept just that...TRADITIONS

All feedback is welcome...
Smooches

CELEBRATION TIME..OR PRAYING TIME..

JUST LAST NIGHT THE WORLD WATCHED AS PRESIDENT OBAMA ANNOUNCED THE DEATH OF OSAMA BIN LADEN.... I WATCHED AS HUNDREDS OF PEOPLE GATHERED OUTSIDE THE WHITE HOUSE AS WELL AS GROUND ZERO TO CELEBRATE THE DEATH OF A MAN WHOM AMERICA HAS BEEN TRYING TO CAPTURE SINCE SEPTEMBER 11, 2001. NOW DON'T GET ME WRONG OSAMA DID A LOT OF WRONGFUL THINGS BUT HE WILL HAVE TO ANSWER TO THOSE THINGS AND TO BE PERFECTLY HONEST...THE UNITED STATES OF AMERICA SHOULD HAVE BEEN LEFT COMPLETELY OUT OF WHATEVER WAS GOING ON IN AFGHANISTAN...WE DON'T EVEN HAVE CONTROL IN OUR COUNTRY SO WHY ARE WE TRYING TO CHANGE A COUNTRY THAT COULD CARE LESS ABOUT DEMOCRACY...(SORRY I GOT OFF SUBJECT FOR A MINUTE)... MY TRUE FEELINGS ARE THAT THIS IS NOT A TIME OF CELEBRATION FOR THE UNITED STATES OF AMERICA..IT IS TIME TO START PRAYING IF YOU DON'T USUALLY PRAY THEN I SUGGEST YOU START BECAUSE THE DEATH OF OSAMA BIN LADEN IS ANYTHING BUT A CELEBRATION... FOR THOSE WHO THINK THE DEATH OF OSAMA IS THE END OF TERRORISM YOU ARE COMPLETELY WRONG...EVERY LEADER HAS A SUCCESSOR AS QUOTED IN THE NEW YORK TIMES

"The killing of Osama should not be seen as mission accomplished," former interior minister Hanif Atmar told the New York Times. "Al Qaeda is much more than just Osama bin Laden." Dr. Ayman al-Zawahiri, an Egyptian doctor who is al-Qaeda's theological leader, will likely succeed bin Laden

I HONESTLY DON'T KNOW WHAT THE DEATH OF OSAMA BIN LADEN MEANS FOR THE UNITED STATES OF AMERICA BUT I DO KNOW ONE THING..... IT'S PRAYING TIME!!!!!!

SMOOCHES

LIMITED MINDS

WHEN WAS THE LAST TIME YOU PICKED UP A BOOK TO ENHANCE YOUR KNOWLEDGE BESIDES A TEXTBOOK....AS A CULTURE I DON'T THINK WE EDUCATE OURSELVES ENOUGH ABOUT THE THINGS THAT ARE HAPPENING AROUND US...WE ARE SO CONSUMED WITH MEDIA.... WHICH STANDS FOR MULTI ETHNIC DESTRUCTION OF AMERICA....AND THIS INCLUDES CELEBRITY GOSSIP...REALITY TV.. MUSIC VIDEOS. VIDEO GAMES...GADGETS...ANYTHING THAT  IS NOT OF ACTUAL REALITY... WE ARE SO CONSUMED THAT WE BECOME ENGULFED IN THE MEDIA WHEN IT ACTUALLY ADDS NO SIGNIFICANCE OR VALUE TO OUR LIVES AT ALL.... IT ALL COMES BACK TO A STATEMENT THAT SAYS... IF YOU EVER WANT TO HIDE SOMETHING FROM AN AFRICAN AMERICAN PUT IT IN A BOOK... THERE ARE SO MANY THINGS THAT WE ARE BLINDED BY AS A CULTURE BECAUSE WE DO NOT TAKE THE TIME TO EDUCATE OURSELVES OUTSIDE THE CLASSROOM... IN THE CLASSROOM TEACHERS ARE ONLY OBLIGATED TO TEACH A LIMITED AMOUNT OF INFORMATION ON THINGS THAT HAVE BEEN APPROVED...SO IT'S UP TO US TO EDUCATE OURSELVES AND BECOME DIVERSIFIED IN OUR OWN KNOWLEDGE...MEDIA WAS CREATED AS A DISTRACTION IF WE FEEL THAT WE CAN LEARN EVERYTHING FROM TELEVISION OR A MOVIE THEN IN ACTUAL REALITY MOST OF US WILL NOT OPEN A BOOK TO READ THAT SAME INFORMATION...I THINK ITS TIME THAT WE OPEN OUR EYES TO WHAT IS GOING ON IN THE WORLD AND NOT LIMIT OUR MINDS TO WHAT THE  MEDIA WANTS US TO KNOW BUT TO TRULY EDUCATE OURSELVES AND EMPOWER EACH OTHERS AS A CULTURE......SMOOCHES

ALL FEEDBACK IS WELCOME..

THE BLACK FEMALE

THE BLACK FEMALE......WHERE CAN I START....THE BLACK FEMALE IN MY OPINION IS A SYMBOL OF STRENGTH, PRIDE, COURAGE, AND THE BACKBONE OF THE BLACK COMMUNITY... THAT VIEW IS SLOWLY STARTING TO FADE AWAY AND WE ARE NOW LEFT  WITH A STEREOTYPE OF THE  "BLACK FEMALE".  YOU KNOW THE ANGRY BLACK WOMAN WHO IS BITTER ABOUT PAST RELATIONSHIPS..BABY MAMA DRAMA.. AND THE "GHETTO" GIRL . WE'VE ALL SEEN THE BLACK FEMALE WHO IS ACTING A CLOWN IN PUBLIC OVER ONE THING OR ANOTHER... BEING LOUD AND MAKING A SCENE FOR THE WHOLE WORLD TO SEE AND MAKING A SPECTACLE OF OUR RACE... THE STEREOTYPICAL BLACK FEMALE HAS BECOME SUCH A STIGMA THAT OUR OWN BLACK MALES ARE SOMETIMES AFRAID TO BE WITH US...SOME EVEN OPT TO DATE OUTSIDE THE RACE ( I DON'T BLAME THEM...) EVEN THE MOVIES PLAY UP THE STEREOTYPICAL ROLE OF THE BLACK FEMALE THINK OF ANGELA (PLAYED BY TASHA SMITH) IN TYLER PERRY'S WHY DID I GET MARRIED....SHE IS PORTRAYED AS A BLACK WOMAN WHO IS OVERLY LOUD AND OBNOXIOUS AND NEVER SATISFIED... NOW I'M NOT SPEAKING OF ALL BLACK FEMALES WHEN I SPEAK ON THIS SUBJECT BUT WE ALL KNOW AND HAVE SEEN SOMEONE WHO FITS THIS STEREOTYPE ....SO I THINK IT'S TIME THAT WE AS BLACK WOMEN TAKE A STAND AGAINST THAT STIGMA AND PROVE TO THE WORLD THAT WE ARE MORE THAN JUST THE STEREOTYPICAL "BLACK FEMALE"....

FEEL FREE TO SHARE YOUR VIEWS ON THIS TOPIC..

SELF ENSLAVEMENT

 I KNOW THIS TOPIC HAS BEEN DISCUSSED MILLIONS OF TIMES BUT I FEEL THE NEED TO SHARE MY INDIVIDUAL THOUGHTS ON THE MATTER....
HOW MANY TIMES HAVE  YOU HEARD THAT "THE MAN DOESN'T WANT TO SEE US MAKE IT".... (NOT EVERYONE ANSWER AT ONCE)... HAVE YOU EVER THOUGHT TO THINK THAT WE OURSELVES ARE THE MAN... HMMMM... INTERESTING I KNOW... I SEE SO MANY TIMES WHERE WE ARE STANDING IN EACH OTHERS WAY OF SUCCESS AND TO ME THIS IS TROUBLING... WE WANT TO BLAME EVERYTHING ON THE "MAN" AND WE ALL KNOW THAT "MAN" ARE OUR STEREOTYPICAL CAUCASIANS..SURE ENOUGH THERE IS A STRUGGLE...DON'T GET ME WRONG IT'S HARD OUT HERE...BUT I THINK WE ARE HINDERING OUR OWN GROWTH.. THE TABLES HAVE TURNED DRASTICALLY...YES !!!!! THERE IS MODERN DAY SLAVERY AND WE OURSELVES ARE THE SLAVE MASTERS... WE ARE THE DRUG DEALERS WHO KEEP OUR SISTERS AND BROTHERS STRUNG OUT TO THE POINT WHERE THEY WILL DO ANYTHING FOR THE HIGH... NOW SURE ENOUGH IT'S THE INDIVIDUALS CHOICE TO USE THE DRUGS BUT WE SURE DON'T TRY TO STOP THEM EITHER... WE ARE KILLING EACH OTHER OVER THE MOST TRIVIAL OF THINGS.... SOME OF US WOULD RATHER RECEIVE WELFARE THAN GET AN EDUCATION AND MAKE SOMETHING BETTER FOR OURSELVES.... WE ARE NOT BUILDING OUR COMMUNITY WE ARE TEARING IT DOWN... SO I SAY IT'S TIME TO STOP BLAMING THE "MAN" AND TAKE A LOOK AROUND AND SEE WHAT YOU CAN DO TO STOP THE SELF ENSLAVEMENT OF OUR PEOPLE.

FEEL FREE TO SHARE YOUR THOUGHTS ON THIS MATTER...

SMOOCHES....

SOCIAL NETWORKING

HAVE YOU EVER WONDERED WHERE THE NETWORKING HAS GONE IN THE SOCIAL NETWORKS. IT SEEMS THAT THE NETWORKING HAS BEEN TAKEN COMPLETELY OUT OF THE SOCIAL NETWORKING WEBSITES AND THEY ARE JUST NOW SOCIAL.... THINK ABOUT IT...WHEN WAS THE LAST TIME YOU ACTUALLY REACHED OUT ON FACEBOOK TO  ACTUALLY DO ANY NETWORKING WHETHER IT'S FOR SCHOOL..WORK...OR ANYTHING FOR THAT MATTER. I CAN PERSONALLY SAY THAT I HAVE NOT DONE ANY NETWORKING IN A LONG TIME... SOME INDIVIDUALS ( I KNOW THEM PERSONALLY) USE THE SOCIAL NETWORKS AS A DIARY, TELL-ALL BOOK, DATING WEBSITE (FACEBOOK AND TWITTER IS NOT THE NEW E-HARMONY) AND SOME JUST USE THE SOCIAL NETWORKS AS A WAY TO BASH OTHER INDIVIDUALS. NOW IF WE WERE TO TAKE A LOOK AT SOME OF THE STATUSES WE POSTS OR EVEN SOME OF THE TWEETS THAT WE TWEET WOULD YOU WANT YOUR PARENTS, PASTORS, BOSS OR EVEN YOUR KIDS TO SEE SOME OF THOSE THINGS. (HMMMMM...THINK ABOUT IT)  I KNOW I AM NOT ONE TO JUDGE AND I AM ALL FOR FREEDOM OF SPEECH BUT THERE ARE SOME THINGS THAT SHOULD BE KEPT OFF OF THE SOCIAL NETWORKS.
 I KNOW SOME OF YOU ARE PROBABLY THINKING SO WHAT I DON'T CARE WHAT PEOPLE SAY OR THINK ABOUT ME... I CAN UNDERSTAND THAT...BUT ITS NOT WHAT OTHERS THINK ABOUT YOU ITS WHAT YOU THINK OF YOURSELF..AND WITH THAT BEING SAID..... PUT THE NETWORKING BACK IN SOCIAL NETWORKING....

SMOOCHES